If in doubt about what you are doing, pause and look around you

 As you know, like you, I am openminded; I think , Maybe, thinking about what i just wrote , I don't really think, therefore I lie. so many liars in one house and not an ounce of confession.  
Best I keep moving or I might realize I am on the wrong track  ..... and need to go back .. at least a step or two. 
Like you, I am probably too busy to really think , and as old as I am,  am not only stuck in my ways , but you refuse to budge. 
Well same here . which why,  nearly legless myself,   I suggest you just pause and look around around you. Read something that you have never read because the label really annoys you. 







You are not getting too old for this ( glory be to them's that coined that expressio) but No 
 YOU were meant for this ( at any age but particularly in old age when you have time for it )   Confession will do all of us good .


I really hope this note i posted TODAY makes your day Know love: How to jump back into the idea of Marriage

   

If you knew a way to make the world a much better place , would you do it?

 I truly hope so. If you are young, I pray you will seek both the wisdom to find and follow that path. 
Let me suggest that most of us have at least three reasons why we might not do this 

1. We don't actually know the identity let alone HOW to achieve that goal
2. Even if we know the goal, we can be expected to be easily discouraged by the profound application difficulty and dedication required to reach that goal. There are easier things to do for yourself and defining public good goals that can be achieved takes great wisdom. 
3. We are most likely to be presently doing something else at the moment. 
   
   There will be other discouragements like- the goal may look small compared to some,  but let's just ignore them because I believe self-satisfaction is the best kind of reward any of us can expect and one achievement can be expected to drive the desire for more.(cf the lack of rewards in self-serving ) 
   
   Lots of questions . I hope, in subsequent posts to describe how we can keep in touch with a sound goal in our own patch (cause that is the only way to see and achieve that goal) 
   
   
   Let me list one goal ( listing contraints may take the focus off the objective here and start the not so critical reality that there will be discouragements ) 
   
   WORTHY and achievable GOAL 
    1, To pay to farmers the margin required to make food production profitable and their use and investment in
   the land more sustainable, Some background Some background  to the present realities in the West 

Whatever you do , do it and do it well

 My generation of Australians are confused . They aim naturally , like most human and their families ,  to find economic security, but find themselves with two houses and their children with none . 

It's a form of madness ( denial?) to focus on the obvious  yet thats all the wannabes ever seem to do ; that  house prices are unaffordable; that's mere economics and we can fix that if we want to . As Sorell reminds us, its only when we accept there are only tradeoffs and not solutions  on the housing issue , we can find a way through there . Its predictable machinery . 

Not so with good work - envisioning that takes wisdom - and not the trite nonsense that says being a lawyer will bring you home . This is is more of the bread that never satisfies.  

Its a form of denial to get distracted and name call when the problem is in the too hard basket for all the rabbits assembled in parliament .
The problem is not housing but homing and the deeper problem is the lack of community commitment to careers . Even teachers talk carelessly for decades about having  3 jobs is a lifetime as if that is the reality or the  desirable outcome.
The fear ridden rabbits are afraid to even mention the word career  when it's blatantly obvious we need doctors and people to help them manage the huge work load.

Something is still wrong when we now in 2024 are no longer producing credible doctors of the environment credible doctors of the environment .
When instead of offering solutions our leaders are offering fear  fear 


I will finish here for now cause while the need for doctors is my thing , we let our kids fall into a deep pit by NOT talking and finding out worthwhile work and NOT getting them ready for the variety by teaching them how to anticipate it ---- and cope with it when it comes along .

As one who has also  spent decades dealing with poor attitudes to any work by tens of young people in my care, I will leave the next chapter  of my  "Do whatever you do and do it well" talk      because it is the most inspiring one of all.
None of us will be happy with just a house or three, but a job well done CAN really help everyone of us find home.   find home.  

You know even rabbits are adaptable .Why aren't we?
These rabbits don't need a warren. There mobile home is under the cars at our depot  ,They have more exists and entries than an earth warren and no preditor can touch them . provided they dont go deaf and blind they won't get rained on , flooded or dug out, 


Why are so many of us living in the richest country in the world BUT without a home   Copyright EA 

  

Anger can be a real killer

We need to be far wiser in responding to angry people. 
To do that well, we need to recognize that we get angry too. 
Infact all parties involved need to think through why many new ideas in this area are NOT WORKING - see below. 

Let's start by reviewing the history of ideas and what i am saying is common neglect of what works.

In the West we know , or used to know, the power of good words . Verbal assault carries similiar import in our culture to physical assault , yet nowadays an aside or a putdown , gas lighting , cancelling or a taunt , is seen as" no big deal" ( even though it s against several of the 10 commandments)

its true  that unless we can FIND a positive ,we will all go down in the negative . But short circuiting life to avoiding negative means we restrict ourselves to non resolution with reality ; we don't face reality and then move,  on as we need to .
Holding onto anger is a curse  and we need to show young people how NOT to do that.  

 The common counter accusations about whose loving and whose hating ,mean we are confused and confusing each other ; most people are not thinking or acting deeply here . 

We have an effective centuries old answer to preventing wrath .We just have to use it .The miracle is that with anger , being strong and direct with it YOURSELF can diffuse it on both sides.

If you practice dissipating it ( Its natural not naughty -by talking before the sun goes down) you can LEARN that its not good for YOU THEM or anyone to hold onto it ---- Is not this the big deal . hanging on to it!

Don't be harder , be smarter. For everyone's benefit. 

Young people  have a particular problem, because real life can seem too hard.  Do what you do well son and you will find the way to progress for yourself  .

BUT Some with some age still have lots to learn 

Take some who would try to control our media and wannabes in government . 
Some of the more assertive think , quite wrongly, they can change the attitude of others by lecturing us about how bad we are and where we should treat each other better .

Such a technique simply doesn't work ( try it at home-- the angry wife is right but she won't control him by swapping chairs) and because it doesn't work, those using it in power, push word control and group "racism "even harder .
We must resist those who force such ineffective tyranny.

In real life there is always conflict
Free speech is the way to prevent all out warfare and many reactive controls imposed by fanatics to control it are wrong .

The reactionary position which just says anger is a sin are wrong. Anger can be a natural response ( adrenalin and nor adrenalin) and we need our worldview to help us manage it.

Many families will struggle to teach their children about how to deal with anger when 80% of marriages in Australia break up-often over it . 



Support TRUE independents who represent (not the plethora of "i will do it my way"'s), community TV ( ABC channels?),good Parent controlled education, counselling and Consider your VOTE well.

No better jobs than these

No better job than helping people find good jobs to do - however simple.  Nothing need be wasted if you cut precisely. 
Moderns often make the mistake of thinking we must not cut , but cutting is what our Creator calls us to do. It's not easy or costless and can be very painful to do.
Nature is sensitive and delicate so we must understand it well before we cut anything there. By understanding  nature you will develop confidence to cut it because nature is resilient and reproductive as well . 
So learn to do it well . 
Precision in decision is your calling in whatever paddock or workshop you find yourself in  Keep the blades sharp and you won't need to do what the French did in the 1700's 
 



Last week at a concert we sang the great song by the duo Gershwin's "Nice work if you can get it "
 

The song ends with the words "Will YOU show me how ?"
No even though I spent half my life trying to find good work for young people ( Other peoples children ) I know I can't do it
Let me remind you then that you can't help many people and you too need to choose which ones you  should aim to help. 
What I can do is show you how  to run your own household and be a good parent 
To save time let me just tell you a story   ( the very short version as is fit for a poet ) 

Father to Son    Did you hit your brother ? 
Son  No !!  No ! 
Father   Off to your room ( so you can THINK about what you are doing and have done )
Father  Come out when you have something more to say 

OK  what is happening here?  Efficient conversation 
 Later  . None of the following may be necessary -- We don't want only more nagging  but some words can be helpful too
"Before you leave this house, you need to know that lying to yourself and to others is wrong and not good for you . You need to know who your enemy is and how to engage with him  " 



" Look son, I love you but I don't love some of the things you choose to do. If I get angry at you its often because of things you choose to do. You have been given absolute freedom by your Creator ( not me ) to do what ever you like.( Teach them to hate the sin but love the sinner ) 
You do have bad thoughts which you can't do much about except not to act on them .More important than that, you need to admit to yourself ( noone else) that you have them and deal with them as bad ." {Jung rightly describes the only problem remaining is man himself. )

Mums might have the worst jobs in the world (in this case perhaps having the constant bad cop job of telling the child it is wrong to lie) but by the two cops working together, the good cop can take a different tack. It's always better and more effective IF we tell ourselves the truth and however long it takes it's time well spent. God help those who try to tell us these things. 

Don't fail --focus! 
I spent half my life trying to help young people who were not my own, to find good work .  Whatever I said did little to change their attitudes or their pathway. I have watched others too give their time generously too to other's children. Its been hard for them too because they can easily and deeply neglect their own families in the process.

What am I saying ? Choose well who you will help. I am saying don't overestimate what you can do for other peoples children but do a good job on your own (they too won't ever be perfect but focus on what builds resilience in households) 
 And if you haven't got children of your own teach yourself to do even the most basic of jobs well so that you will then learn to do everything well . 


And forget being remembered and appreciated , Doing your job well will lead you to get the best satisfaction you will ever get. 


(If you really want help, don't go straight to a psychologist, try an experienced poets like  Gershwins  .)

We all have good sound reasons to be angry

For a start, we all know, as reasonable people, that even though we know things, we are not listened to.
That fact can make us rightly angry -- angry adrenalin responses can be OK-  it;s what our Creator built into us 

It's how we manage that anger that can make it good.
  Adrenalin is the dangerous and diverse effect gift to you to manage life for GOOD .And yes its also dangerous and easily part of the Bad .
 God wants you to properly author and counsel others with the truth. Its part or your arsenal to live the good life . Its particularly the weapon for good of those who are pushed down ( cf those who rise to the top) 

 I feel for Stan Grant (resigning from ABC) and Noel Pearson (because racism and isolation is on the increase), but they, like our post- modern culture are trapped by their inadequate attitudes to anger hatred repentance and forgiveness. They are overreacting to a real threat, but not really understanding the threat.

Mistargeting and overstating 
The monarchy and Christianity are not inherent threats to honoring diversity, but the very reason we have for centuries honored it.  
 It's how we deal with anger that's changed.
The post modernists have made anger a sin, when it is not. This is, as Os Guiness said, the West going East and losing itself in unproductive shaming, guilt and unforgiveness that perpetuates the pain and the adrenaline suppression (not good) 

Most of us were taught that God gets angry and that we should deal with anger before the sun goes down each day. Believers and their families ( incl children) could get hot under the collar and survive. They lived the wonderful truth that it was ok to be angry every day, but to deal with it in a positive  way .This limits, like nor-adrenaline, the damage that could now kill us.  
By making it a sin, it makes the person who SHOWS anger now feel very bad, ashamed and accused of shaming; the focus of gas lighters.  All the afore is unworkable unnecessary and inappropriate intransigence and pain.  

In rejecting their Christian heritage, the ABC have adopted, from the vacuum in the vault of pure reaction, some other old ideas that do not work.
The only way to make things work. for our children's sake, is to admit we have given into unforgiveness, shaming and not accepting that the many injustices done to us (or done to or by our forebears) are less important  that injustices done to people right now. 

Recognise those suffering from cognitive dissonance

 
IN THIS LOST AGE , EVERYBODY IS ANGRY -- almost all the time 
Life confuses all us at times.   never more than when mum and dad argue.
Never more than when anger and adrenalin doesn't fulfil its purpose or worse - is said to be a sin ( a heresy) 
The mistake some never grown ups make is to think the arguers hate each other.
Best to look deeper
Best to check those that confront others don't just HATE the action  - people who love you will sometimes insist on telling you the truth - even if it hurts
eg the arrogance and the insistence on getting own's own way
EVERYBODY IS ANGRY -- almost all the time because the post Christian world view of the highest morality is that everyone should be free to get what they want , Something we all tried out when we were children but its now the church where most people now worship 

Yes lovers can learn to hate each other but anger , dealt with before the sun goes down can be restorative .   We are living in an age of quick fix , no fix waste and divorce when we all need a way to be reconciled . 

Some children never get enough good shocks and LOVING WORDS to check their rebellion in a good way . Such people think the problem with  people is something wrong with people  other than themselves  ( projection)  .Thats a recipe for hell all around . Do we not have hell all around? 


The inability of a mother to correct her child leads to hate . Unless a miracle of insight love and forgiveness happens, the child can learn only to hate him/herself and others. 
Someone needs to ask some of those boy" Nazi's" trying to silence women in protests last week "what are your  relationships with your mothers?" . Why is it men who are leading in defence of their own position in " nazi " rallies 


SOME PEOPLE LEARN TO USE THEIR ANGER 


MANY MODERNS in cognitive dissonance just FEAR ANGER because they don't understand it 

JB Peterson helps people understand our feelings and mind games . but he is banned from the ABC .